In this blog post, I will be writing from first-hand experiences in adult nursing. This will be from my personal journey and my thoughts on the topics below.

How To Induce Lactation

You CAN do it! – Connecting as key to inducing lactation

Here is the answer to the question I get asked every. single. day.

How did you induce lactation?

What you asked is: How can I induce lactation too? Or how can my partner induce lactation?

The Newman Goldfarb Protocols for Induced Lactation. Read every step carefully and completely.

The first step of inducing lactation is READING.

Then follow the steps that are described in The Newman Goldfarb Protocols for Induced Lactation.

Talk to your doctor about your adult nursing desire, the medications and supplements you have to use, etc in order to have a successful ANR relationship. Tell your doctor about the protocols if necessary.

Women: make sure you are on the right kind of contraceptive hormones.

Men: support your partner in changing to other contraceptive hormones, be part of it from the beginning, and make sure you both know about the potential side effects of the contraceptive hormones you choose. Contraceptive hormones can have a massive effect on the mind and body of your partner, sometimes negative, so be aware of that.

Make sure you use the right supplements and the right amount (NOT MORE). Simply because there is no need, your body can only absorb the prescribed dosage. You will probably end up with more negative side effects, and hell they suck!

Using quality equipment can help a lot! I’m talking about a good breast pump. You must use the right size of breast shield!

Read about diet and make changes, for example eating oatmeal for breakfast at least 3 times a week. Drink 2 to 3 liters of water spread over the day. (and so on..)

Breast massage and hand expression often. Make sure you know how to do it successfully. Hi lovely supportive partners! 🙂 (if you do this alone, your hands are going to hurt)

Follow the steps of the protocol so you know how to pump, how often to pump, how long to pump etc. Personally, I started out pumping/massaging/stimulating between 7:00 – 23:00, every 2 hours for 20 minutes and, if possible, once at night at 3:00.

Okay.. so we covered the simplified basics; you should read and follow the detailed plan and be realistic, this is going to take a whole lot of time and effort, which if you are both motivated will be such a fun journey!

The Keys to Success

Visualize your goal, your desire. This is mainly for the person who is actually going to lactate. You pervs can visualize kinks, right.. but it’s not about visualizing a fantasy. It’s about visualizing your near future. Visualize you are lactating already.

Trust in yourself, in your body, in the protocols. The female body is MADE to produce milk. (Even men can naturally start to produce milk under certain circumstances, for example, after severe starvation). Activating the right hormones by sticking to the steps of the protocols WILL induce lactation. Partners: trust in your partner.

Believe in yourself. Believe that you can do whatever you set your mind to. Know how capable your body is to produce milk. I’d say ‘believe,’ but it’s the mindset of actually knowing inside that you can actually do it. Those drops WILL come.

Patience is what you and your partner will need loads of, especially in the beginning. If you want an adult nursing relationship that works, you will sometimes feel like nothing seems to happen. You are massaging and stimulating and dry nursing for days or weeks without any sign of milk. You might feel like giving up! Allow the process of inducing lactation to happen.

Do NOT give up! I’ve induced lactation twice now, and I know that when you feel like it’s not going to happen, you need to go on anyway. Success is just around the corner.

Celebrate every little success that you have, and I’m going to give you a list of successes that you can have on this journey, each day:

• You got on the right kind of contraceptive hormones.
• You finished a phase of the protocols!
• You managed to stick to your schedule!
• You managed to stick to your diet.
• You managed to drink the extra water.
• You had a great nursing experience with your partner/suckle buddy!
• You managed to do a midnight nursing/pumping!
• You saw the first yellow, clear or white drop!
• You got two drops!
• You saw the first drop of milk in the bottle of your breast pump!
• AND SO ON.
  

Be proud of yourself 

Be proud of your partner. Be proud of how far you have already come on this journey, alone or together! you both are committed to this anr relationship. After all, there are a good amount of guys wanting anr so if he tells his friends, some will be jealous.

Relax! Being stressed doesn’t help with reaching any goal in life. Especially if you want to induce lactation. Your body works better if you are calm. So make yourself comfortable. You deserve to feel the relaxation of the experience of nursing. You deserve a break.

If you and your partner have had a fight, you are not going to be able to relax and produce the amount of milk that you would produce if you felt harmonious in your relationship. If there is tension in the house you are not going to produce as much milk as you would in a harmonious environment. Find out which changes you can make to improve the situation.

Also find the key inside yourself to switch to a calm mindset, then this will calm your feelings as well as your body. Nursing and pumping is a practice of mindfulness. So embrace the opportunity to calm down and relax, alone and together.

Focus on the feelings that nursing or pumping gives you. I would call these ‘mom feelings’. Nursing or pumping triggers the release of oxytocine in your body. This hormone makes you feel connected to others. Just like when you give someone a hug. It feels great.

Recognize this feeling. Allow it to grow inside you. It can feel like a warm feeling in your stomach. It opens up your heart chakra, like a flower bud opening up. It is an amazing feeling. Focus on this positive feeling, on the connection you feel with yourself, with your partner, with femininity, with the primal energy of nursing, the primal energy of the mother and the pure Goddess energy that you can channel through the practice of nursing.

It’s possible if this feeling also triggers sexual arousal and I’d say just let it unfold. Focussing on sexual arousal from the start is NOT the key. It’s the focus on this feeling of connectedness. It’s beneficial to know where to focus on. Inducing lactation is not about suckling for 2 minutes and then moving on to sex.

That is a whole different energy and you can not induce lactation if you have only 2-minute suckle sessions! Because focussing on making a real heartfelt connection is part of inducing lactation, nursing is not something you do with just anyone who comes on your path and just wants to try the taste of your precious milk (that you worked super hard for!) Like you are someone’s experiment.

Support is last but definitely not least! Having Support while inducing lactation is so important! Having a supportive partner can make so much difference! Yes, you can do it if you induce lactation alone and you believe in yourself. But we all have days when it gets really hard to find the right mindset, to find the motivation, to trigger this feeling of connectedness.

Have someone stand by you, believe in you, and has your back when you feel stressed. When you’re moods go all over the place because of hormonal changes in your body because of these contraceptive hormones… Your partner who helps you remember that it could be a side effect of the hormones you are on or a side effect of the supplements or medications you’re on, when you are IN a mood… makes so much difference in becoming aware and realize you are not a mood, you are IN one and you can maybe even step out of it.

(Watch out for side effects of interactive medications, they can cause intense feelings and stress amongst other). A supportive partner can really help improve situations, highten awareness and help you find back your focus.

Okay Support was not the last but almost because…

Team effort Inducing lactation is actually a team effort. It can be done if you are by yourself but this can make you feel alone. Since lactation is about the connection, having someone near you that you can connect with makes all the difference.

Someone who understands how much work, time and effort you have to put into inducing lactation to make it a success. Someone who is there. Same for inducing lactation FOR a partner who really is into suckling. You need to find it in yourself to want to feel this connection with your partner. This should be your motivation, not the physical sex part or seeing the milk.

The feeling of connection with your partner is the seed of a unique sexual experience if you focus on the feeling of being connected and allow this feeling to unfold.

Why Guys wanting ANR/ABF are unsuccessful, don’t be that guy

1- Not knowing what you really want:
Guys don’t know the difference between an ANR, ABF, so i’m going to summarize it in very very simple terms that even your basic knuckle draggers can understand, (that’s if they even take the time to read which most ladies know they don’t).

ABF (Adult Breast Feeding) (this is what most guys really want) is Basically suckling, not investing the time and dedication needed for an ANR, really just hookups and meeting multiple women, which is fine if you meet someone who wants the same thing, but most women want a deeper committed relationship, sex may or may not be an option.

ANR (Adult Nursing Relationships), the operative word is a relationship. To be in an ANR is an investment in time, commitment, and emotions; it takes real work; it is usually something that needs to happen several times a day, every day; you can’t live hours away and be in a true ANR. Sex may or may not be an option.

Wanting sex along with ANR/ABF, if this is something that you want or expect, you should let the lady know and not fake it; most women will have it in their profiles how they feel about this; if she’s not interested. Don’t spend time trying to convince her otherwise because you’re totally fucking up at this point; if she’s not interested, drop it because you’ll be dropped with the quickness.

Treating women like a commodity, Guys approach women like this is an on-demand on tap. You got what I want, and I want it now. Can I come by right now type of thing. If that’s what you want, call an escort.

Starting off the first conversation by talking about, I want to suck your tits or something about their breast in the very first line of the first message you send is a quick way to be placed on the ignore list.

Sexting should be self-explanatory; for most women, you’re wasting their time and a good way to get ghosted.

Saying I wish you were here or you were there, Don’t waste the ladies’ time; if you’re nowhere near them, there is no need to send this very useless message. Most ladies hate it.

Sending unsolicited pictures, most ladies don’t want you to send them dick pics and will ignore you if you do; always ask before sending unsolicited pictures and what types would be ok.

This next one may be a little controversial; if you want to only engage in dry nursing, while many ladies are into dry nursing only with no desire to induce lactation, you need to approach them the same as for adult nursing /ANR/ABF.

Now if you don’t have an interest in that and just want to suck some titty, any will-do type of thing, instead of trying to meet a woman into ANR/ABF and wasting their and your time, it may be much easier to contact an escort, lot less frustration and it can easily be set up to your timetable, it’s pay to play if you go that route.

Milkmaid Services: this is the route to go if you want on-demand wet nursing, you’re paying for a service, and you get what you want when you want without the commitment, time, or any emotions invested; pay to play. You can even purchase breast milk products from some of them.

Adult Nursing – How to Suckle ~ Suckling 101

I was asked this today and wrote a response which I will copy here and make a sticky.

The most common mistake sucklers make is thinking that the milk comes out of just the nipple. The ducts are actually into and past the areola (the dark area around the nipple). Most sucklers are tempted to just suck the nipple which will only house what’s sitting there from the last time.

That will make a nurser sorer than hell! Squeezing the milk into your mouth is cheating also LOL! Suckling is the best way to make sure the milk ducts get emptied and are able to replenish itself.

Make sure your mouth is over the whole areola and suckle with your tongue and cheeks. Imagine that it’s a pacifier in your mouth and you have to use sucking actions to keep it in there. Draw out the milk slowly because it needs time to travel down the ducts.

Gently massage the breasts while you are suckling to keep the milk moving. Don’t squeeze too hard because you don’t want to damage the milk ducts. Switch breasts when you feel it start to slow down. That will give the milk ducts time to fill back up. Keep rotating breasts until you can’t suckle anymore or about 5 minutes after they are emptied.

Some nursers stream and some nursers dribble. Generally I stream and then I taper off. Keep going after they taper off. The action tells the ducts that the suckler is still hungry and they need to produce a little more each time. I tell my new sucklers that you will not get it right the first time. That rarely happens.

Each nurser is different, so you just have to get a feel for what works FOR THEM, not you. Don’t be afraid to try different angles or techniques because no two breasts are alike. One breast will usually be more cooperative than the other. At least it is with me.

Keep suckling even after you don’t feel any more coming out. The breast can’t refuel without being emptied first. It works off of the principal of “supply and demand”. Even as experienced as I am (8+ years of maintaining milk), my supply has been a rollercoaster.

When adult nursing, I’d prefer being suckled twice a day to bulk back up, but some days that just doesn’t happen. Pumping doesn’t properly empty my breast because my areolas are too large for my pump right now. Sometimes I express in the shower under hot water to relieve pressure. I know – it’s a waste, but oh well LOL. I can’t build any more without releasing what’s already in there.

The best position for me to suckle is straddling my Daddy. That way both breasts are in position with his face and he can alternate easily (and I can grind him at the same time LOL). Sexual stimulation is my let-down tactic. Each nurser has to find what makes them “let down” their milk.

Lying down facing your partner is also good. The only issue with that is switching sides or getting the other breast in position with their mouth. Cradling on a couch is good too if you can get into a good position. Gravity is your friend!

Get the breast into position where they are pointing downward. Lying on your back is not a great position to nurse from, it creates more work on the suckler and the milk has to travel up, like through a straw.

My final advice to adult nursing sucklers: Keep it up! We know your mouth will get sore, we know you will get tired. BUT, you are the key to keeping us going! My apologies in advance for my attempt to use neutral pronouns because not all nursers are born women and not all sucklers are men.

Yes, trans women can produce milk so never make assumptions 🙂. If you love suckling then don’t stop, you will be rewarded one day soon with a breastfeeding woman who loves to have her breast milk taken by her husband and you will soon find yourself in a ANR relationship.

If you are seeking to find a man or woman who is into ANR relationship or Adult Nursing relationship. For more info, check out the lactating group here on WOK or visit dreams of milk.